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Old 09-12-05, 03:52 PM   #1
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Can you be 'friends' after a dating relationship ends?

Sure in a perfect world, once the loving stops, frienship should resume. But is it reasonable to expect someone to treat you like a great friend if things go sour? Especially if one person ended it and the other didnt want to. Isnt it better to keep your distance to help them let go and move on? Are you a jerk for moving on first and not coddling them through the breakup? Is there some published rulebook somewhere?
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Old 09-12-05, 03:53 PM   #2
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Not if it were a very deep relationship, imo.

Those people you dated because they were friends and you were both bored, yeah, that can work. But not someone you were actually planning a future with.

Unless they have big boobies. Forgot that part.
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Old 09-12-05, 03:54 PM   #3
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I will be her friend.

Please forward her phone number and email addy. Thanks.
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Old 09-12-05, 03:57 PM   #4
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Peed in her butt? If so yes it's possible if no then you're SOL
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Old 09-12-05, 03:59 PM   #5
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Bando isnt your underwear clingy enough?
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Old 09-12-05, 04:00 PM   #6
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Not nearly.
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Old 09-12-05, 05:23 PM   #7
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Yes, but its much easier when they live in another state.
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Old 09-12-05, 05:23 PM   #8
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This is a very difficult situation.
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Old 09-12-05, 05:26 PM   #9
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Yes, but its much easier when they live in another state.
Are those dates in your sig the times that you and this out of state short ass had nasty sex?
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Old 09-12-05, 05:31 PM   #10
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In my opinion you can be friends unless the break up was full of drama and people do not speak to each other. Now, I would like a scientific explanation over Canadian Bacon's thesis. Please Mr. Bacon would you care to explain with a little more detail?
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Old 09-12-05, 05:36 PM   #11
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Are those dates in your sig the times that you and this out of state short ass had nasty sex?
Is this the first time you've noticed those dates?
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Old 09-12-05, 05:40 PM   #12
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There is no such thing that can exist.

Things will never be the same.

I suggest cutting off all ties.
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Old 09-12-05, 05:47 PM   #13
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Are those dates in your sig the times that you and this out of state short ass had nasty sex?
No. Its the dates that we didnt have sex.
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Old 09-12-05, 06:03 PM   #14
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No. Its the dates that we didnt have sex.
You can bet those were dates that MJKTool didn't have sex either.

Getting back to the topic at hand. I'm semi-friendly w/ a chick I dated. She was my boss. I ended it. She hated me for a while, but she got over it and we remained friends. I still keep in touch w/ her and see her every so often. I can tell she still likes me, but I'm done w/ her.
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Old 09-12-05, 06:06 PM   #15
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Two of my ex-es are very close friends of mine. On occasion we've had some trouble post-breakup, but for the most part they're just good friends.
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Old 09-12-05, 06:09 PM   #16
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You can bet those were dates that MJKTool didn't have sex either.

Ouch!


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Old 09-12-05, 06:10 PM   #17
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So consensus is:
its not cold and heartless, 'proof you never loved' etc to move on? Not rude to have answer emails with short emotionless answers?
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Old 09-12-05, 06:12 PM   #18
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Ouch!


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Old 09-12-05, 06:24 PM   #19
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Haven't ever been able to, myself... doesn't seem to matter who ended it or why, it's just too difficult to "dial back"... in all senses of the word...
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Old 09-12-05, 08:05 PM   #20
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It may be possible to be friends (again) down the road but there seems to be a period of time that they need apart to completely come to terms with the relationship being over.
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Old 09-12-05, 08:08 PM   #21
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I'm gonna say no. You can't work together either. I'm currently suffering through both.
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Old 09-12-05, 08:23 PM   #22
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I'm gonna say no. You can't work together either. I'm currently suffering through both.
Again, not true. I ended up working w/ a chick I dated (my boss) for over a year after we broke up. It was awkward at first, but we got over it.
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Old 09-12-05, 08:39 PM   #23
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I'm friends with two of my exes. They weren't serious relationships, though.
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Old 09-12-05, 09:18 PM   #24
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I'm still friends with my ex who I was with for 3 years. There was some awkwardness at first, particularly on my end and whenever the subject of other guys she was interested in came up, however that's mostly gone now and we hang out every week or two.
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Old 09-12-05, 09:19 PM   #25
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I had a gf and she and after I broke up and she ended up marrying my best freind.He was always interested in her and asked me if I had any problems.I said I have none cause I never loved her and she was the one wanting to have a relationship with me.
Now it seems he likes to pretend I never existed and she is always emailing me.I am still a friend to her but with my best freind I think he does not want me anywhere near him or his wife
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