movie theater rudeness rant
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movie theater rudeness rant
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My 13-year-old daughter had a small role in a locally made independent film, and for the past week it has been showing at a nearby multiplex.
Now bear in mind this is an unrated film that has been touted in the local papers as being for mature audiences (ie, it's not an action film, it's not animated, it's not a comedy). No nudity or violence, but somewhat of a mature storyline.
Last night we went to the 7:00 show, and due to it being somewhat crowded, we had to sit next to a mom, dad and their five kids (ranging in age from about 14 to 5). This is your typical loud-talking bunch, wholly inconsiderate of other paying customers.
It was bad enough their seat-kicking 11-year-old - who spoke at normal volume to his older sister - removed his pop cup lid and sat their bending and cracking it for about 15 minutes until it broke, but when the understandably antsy 5-year-old (who was in constant motion during the movie, climbing over seats, stomping her feet, crying or talking pretty much the entire time) sat on his lap and he clapped hands with her I really started to get a little irritated.
The little girl would get fidgety, and bounce around from family member to family member, chattering loudly, as all kids will do. I'm sure it was boring for her, but I just don't get why parents don't get a clue and leave, or better yet, instill some kind of rudimentary theater manners in their kids.
There were no overtures by either parent to shush their kids at any point, until finally with about 20 minutes left the dam broke.
It was when the little girl started a mantra of "I wanna go home, I wanna go home, I wanna home" at the TOP OF HER LUNGS. This merited one brief 'shush' from mom, but that was about it. Meanwhile "I wanna go home, I wanna go home, I wanna home" got louder and louder.
With the kid still shouting "I wanna go home", I cast yet another disgusted look at the mom, who then proceeds to stand up and shout equally loud at me, "SIR, I PAID FOR HER TICKET."
To which I replied, "well, maybe you want to tell her to be quiet like the rest of us."
Her response: "MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE COME LAST NIGHT INSTEAD!"
With that, she dragged her now kicking-and-screaming child from the theater, and the suddenly silent theater was able to enjoy the remainder of the flick.
My 13-year-old daughter had a small role in a locally made independent film, and for the past week it has been showing at a nearby multiplex.
Now bear in mind this is an unrated film that has been touted in the local papers as being for mature audiences (ie, it's not an action film, it's not animated, it's not a comedy). No nudity or violence, but somewhat of a mature storyline.
Last night we went to the 7:00 show, and due to it being somewhat crowded, we had to sit next to a mom, dad and their five kids (ranging in age from about 14 to 5). This is your typical loud-talking bunch, wholly inconsiderate of other paying customers.
It was bad enough their seat-kicking 11-year-old - who spoke at normal volume to his older sister - removed his pop cup lid and sat their bending and cracking it for about 15 minutes until it broke, but when the understandably antsy 5-year-old (who was in constant motion during the movie, climbing over seats, stomping her feet, crying or talking pretty much the entire time) sat on his lap and he clapped hands with her I really started to get a little irritated.
The little girl would get fidgety, and bounce around from family member to family member, chattering loudly, as all kids will do. I'm sure it was boring for her, but I just don't get why parents don't get a clue and leave, or better yet, instill some kind of rudimentary theater manners in their kids.
There were no overtures by either parent to shush their kids at any point, until finally with about 20 minutes left the dam broke.
It was when the little girl started a mantra of "I wanna go home, I wanna go home, I wanna home" at the TOP OF HER LUNGS. This merited one brief 'shush' from mom, but that was about it. Meanwhile "I wanna go home, I wanna go home, I wanna home" got louder and louder.
With the kid still shouting "I wanna go home", I cast yet another disgusted look at the mom, who then proceeds to stand up and shout equally loud at me, "SIR, I PAID FOR HER TICKET."
To which I replied, "well, maybe you want to tell her to be quiet like the rest of us."
Her response: "MAYBE YOU SHOULD HAVE COME LAST NIGHT INSTEAD!"
With that, she dragged her now kicking-and-screaming child from the theater, and the suddenly silent theater was able to enjoy the remainder of the flick.
Last edited by Pointyskull; 11-05-04 at 10:01 AM.
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Exactly. Just cos I pay to see something doesn't give the right for me or my progeny to be total inconsiderate asses.
But I am glad it was resolved for you without too much of an altercation, 12thmonkey.
But I am glad it was resolved for you without too much of an altercation, 12thmonkey.
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I've had it with stories like this! Next time this shit happens to me, I'm just going to get violent on whoever it is. Aparantly common sense, reasoning, dirty looks and "shushing" just isn't going to cut it anymore.
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Chill out, Green Jello. My was with regards to the woman and her kids not 12thmonkey.
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
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Originally posted by RocShemp
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
I opted for letting her do all the shrieking - though there was a part of me hoping I'd run into her in the lobby after I had to time formulate even more biting comebacks. (I didn't)
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Originally posted by RocShemp
Chill out, Green Jello. My was with regards to the woman and her kids not 12thmonkey.
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
Chill out, Green Jello. My was with regards to the woman and her kids not 12thmonkey.
Besides, getting violent will just get you kicked out.
Sometimes I think it would be worth getting kicked out or goint to jail just to teach someone how to behave in a movie theater.
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This is the theater's fault. In the good ol' days, they actually had ushers who would kick such people out of the theaters.
In cases like these, the best thing to do is to not confront the person, but leave the theater, find a manager, explain the problem and ask for a refund. In most cases, you'll get both your money back and an extra free ticket, and the person in question will in most cases be confronted by management.
Remember the rule of multiplexes - see the earliest possible show for an R-Rated movie and the lastest possible show for a G or PG rated one (PG-13 is kind of a no-win situation) - you should get pretty good crowds if you follow this rule.
In cases like these, the best thing to do is to not confront the person, but leave the theater, find a manager, explain the problem and ask for a refund. In most cases, you'll get both your money back and an extra free ticket, and the person in question will in most cases be confronted by management.
Remember the rule of multiplexes - see the earliest possible show for an R-Rated movie and the lastest possible show for a G or PG rated one (PG-13 is kind of a no-win situation) - you should get pretty good crowds if you follow this rule.
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Originally posted by Shannon Nutt
This is the theater's fault. In the good ol' days, they actually had ushers who would kick such people out of the theaters.
This is the theater's fault. In the good ol' days, they actually had ushers who would kick such people out of the theaters.
I know you can leave the theater to get a manager, but then you have to miss some of the film.
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Originally posted by Pistol Pete
Thank god the proliferation of laser pointers has subsided. The last couple of years I don't remember seeing any little red dots on the screen.
Thank god the proliferation of laser pointers has subsided. The last couple of years I don't remember seeing any little red dots on the screen.
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I have been to a movie theater once (Spider-man 2) in the past YEAR. I don't miss it one bit.
I have been to a movie theater once (Spider-man 2) in the past YEAR. I don't miss it one bit.
Shannon Nutt is right, though. The theater won't take any action until it starts costing them money. If enough people ask for a refund, it will cut into their profit margin.
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Originally posted by Pistol Pete
Thank god the proliferation of laser pointers has subsided. The last couple of years I don't remember seeing any little red dots on the screen.
Thank god the proliferation of laser pointers has subsided. The last couple of years I don't remember seeing any little red dots on the screen.
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There was another thread (I can't seem to find it) that listed many terrible theater experiences.
I would much rather watch a DVD than go to a theater. DVDs are much cheaper, more conveniant, involve no travel, have a better transfer, and extras. I can stop them, pause them, rewind them, etc.
If the movie is not an absolute must see, I wait for the DVD.
I would much rather watch a DVD than go to a theater. DVDs are much cheaper, more conveniant, involve no travel, have a better transfer, and extras. I can stop them, pause them, rewind them, etc.
If the movie is not an absolute must see, I wait for the DVD.
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Ha! A timely post indeed. Not 20 minutes ago I was at my local AMC theater getting ready to by a ticket for a 1p showing of "The Incredibles"...until...I realized this guy with the 2 fussy kids was also buying tickets for the same show.
I got back into my car. I didn't feel like having to deal with those kids fucking up my movie experience.
I got back into my car. I didn't feel like having to deal with those kids fucking up my movie experience.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Shannon Nutt
[B]This is the theater's fault. In the good ol' days, they actually had ushers who would kick such people out of the theaters.
In cases like these, the best thing to do is to not confront the person, but leave the theater, find a manager, explain the problem and ask for a refund. In most cases, you'll get both your money back and an extra free ticket, and the person in question will in most cases be confronted by management.
Agreed. This is what I did at my local theatre a month or so ago. For the last few weeks I've been looking in ernest for what will be my first widescreen TV so I can put together a home theater setup, one reason being so I can limit the number of times per year I have to worry about bad theater experiences.
Like many, I've had my fill of noise, talking, crying, cellphones and the likes in movie theatres...and paying more and more money in the process. People seem to have less consideration for others now than 10 years ago and I think that's only going to get worse, so if I have to deal with bad behavior from other patrons for more than 5 minutes I go to the manager. Theres no excuse for bad behavior or bringing kids who display bad behavor to theatres, period. If they get ticked off and choose to no longer frequent my theater, cool, I won't have to worry about them repeating the incident.
[B]This is the theater's fault. In the good ol' days, they actually had ushers who would kick such people out of the theaters.
In cases like these, the best thing to do is to not confront the person, but leave the theater, find a manager, explain the problem and ask for a refund. In most cases, you'll get both your money back and an extra free ticket, and the person in question will in most cases be confronted by management.
Agreed. This is what I did at my local theatre a month or so ago. For the last few weeks I've been looking in ernest for what will be my first widescreen TV so I can put together a home theater setup, one reason being so I can limit the number of times per year I have to worry about bad theater experiences.
Like many, I've had my fill of noise, talking, crying, cellphones and the likes in movie theatres...and paying more and more money in the process. People seem to have less consideration for others now than 10 years ago and I think that's only going to get worse, so if I have to deal with bad behavior from other patrons for more than 5 minutes I go to the manager. Theres no excuse for bad behavior or bringing kids who display bad behavor to theatres, period. If they get ticked off and choose to no longer frequent my theater, cool, I won't have to worry about them repeating the incident.
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Originally posted by 12thmonkey
I wasn't considering getting violent, but I did have to bite my tongue to not unload on her with all sorts of nasty comebacks, but at that point I'd be the obnoxious guy being disruptive.
I wasn't considering getting violent, but I did have to bite my tongue to not unload on her with all sorts of nasty comebacks, but at that point I'd be the obnoxious guy being disruptive.
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Put me in the "Tell The Management" column as well. Just today I saw "The Grudge," and I do mean "saw" it, because there was no way to hear what was going on with the earyl DVD commentary being provided by the teen @$$holes sitting in the back of the theatre.
When it was over, I found a manager, told him I wanted a refund due to a rowdy audience, and got a free pass. I've decided from now on that's what I'm going to do each and every time this happens. I Urge everyone else to do it to. If theatres end up with enough complaints/free passes, then maybe they'll start patrolling the theatres more.
When it was over, I found a manager, told him I wanted a refund due to a rowdy audience, and got a free pass. I've decided from now on that's what I'm going to do each and every time this happens. I Urge everyone else to do it to. If theatres end up with enough complaints/free passes, then maybe they'll start patrolling the theatres more.
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Free passes mean nothing to them. You need to demand your money back. That is the only way they will realize. I have had numerous bad experiences, gone to get the manager and they do nothing. They are spineless.
one guy had 6 phone calls before I finally had enough, the manager sent in the security guard, so what does he do. Sits down and watches 15 minutes of the movie. The guy obviously shut it off during that time, b/c he had another 8 or so calls after the guard left. So the manager later tells me they can't do anything unless they witnessed the phone going off.
Giantrobo, that is a bit drastic. It is a kids movie and odds are, there will be kids there. Simple as that. Some of those kids will be good and some will be bad. Follow the rules above, see it at night when the kiddies are at home in bed.
one guy had 6 phone calls before I finally had enough, the manager sent in the security guard, so what does he do. Sits down and watches 15 minutes of the movie. The guy obviously shut it off during that time, b/c he had another 8 or so calls after the guard left. So the manager later tells me they can't do anything unless they witnessed the phone going off.
Giantrobo, that is a bit drastic. It is a kids movie and odds are, there will be kids there. Simple as that. Some of those kids will be good and some will be bad. Follow the rules above, see it at night when the kiddies are at home in bed.