Loaned out box set and booklet did not come back. What would you do?

[Buford T Pusser]

I let a co-worker that I don't see that often borrow Vol. 1 of the SCTV box set. He kept the things for several months. So I asked him about it Thursday and he'd forgotten that he had it. He brought it in the next day and I found it on my desk. The 20 some page booklet/episode guide is not in there.

I haven't gotten in touch with him yet but wondered: What would you do? I somehow think I can't ask him to buy another set so I can get the booklet. Maybe I'll get lucky and he'll find the booklet.



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[Brent L]

Here is the real question:

Why would you let "a co-worker that I don't see that often" borrow such a set?

I'd bring it up, and try my best to guilt the moron into at least offering you something in return.

[TomOpus]

If he's stupid enough to not return it for months then he's stupid enough to forget it had a booklet that's probably laying around the pile of other crap in his room.

[bboisvert]

Bring it up casually... hope he finds the book... but ultimately let it go.

I wouldn't make a huge issue out of it. Consider it a lesson learned -- don't lend out stuff to random people. And certainly nothing that you ever expect to get back in the condition you originally had it in.

[Buford T Pusser]

Here is the real question:

Why would you let "a co-worker that I don't see that often" borrow such a set?

I'd bring it up, and try my best to guilt the moron into at least offering you something in return.


At the time I was working with him on a project and communicating with him quite a bit. But since that's finished I don't see him very often right now.

[Rehevkor]

Fifty lashes.

[DVD Polizei]

That sucks. I guess chalk it up as an experience (unless you want a confrontation and possible bad stuff happening at work--that's why I don't lend out anything to people who I work with--and friends are tough enough), and find out if you can order the booklet from the movie company.

[Squirrel God]

I found it on my desk

Leave a deposit on his desk.

[dollfins1]

when i "loan" out my dvds (usually 1 at a time) i put them into a single cd sleeve. there's no reason to loan out your box, booklet etc. as well

[Maxflier]

when i "loan" out my dvds (usually 1 at a time) i put them into a single cd sleeve. there's no reason to loan out your box, booklet etc. as well

I don't loan out any of my DVD's anymore because i got tired of people not returning stuff,but when i used to loan things i always did the same as dollfins1.

[dmpre99]

i used to loan some of my dvds but they always came back scratched so now i just act like i dont have a dvd collection anymore

[Dabaomb]

sorry for your loss. Mrs. Pusser would not be happy ;)

[Abob Teff]

"Dear Friend,

Some time ago I had lent you the extremely hilarious DVD boxset "SCTV." I really hope that you enjoyed it as much as I do. However, when you returned the boxset, it was incomplete. Included in the boxset was a booklet, but it was not returned. Now I understand that not everybody is as anal as I am. I also understand that we lead hectic lives and a booklet or a DVD is not first and foremost on our minds. However, unless the booklet is returned, I will have to charge full replacement cost to your account. If not paid in a timely manner, your account will be urned over to collections. NOW COUGH IT UP ARSEHOLE!"

Or you could chalk it up as a lesson learned . . .

[Abob Teff]

Oh yeah, then sleep with his wife and daughter for revenge!

[wolverine1028]

I also put the borrowed DVDs in a sleeve. I have had people returned my DVD boxes all jacked up. That's a real pisser!

[nightmaster]

There have been several threads here on this subject and the posts have always been interesting to read; sooner or later, if you loan something to casual friends, you're likely to get burned. I just don't loan out my stuff. Does that make me a prick? Mayyyybe..... but I don't ask to borrow other peoples' things. If I want something I buy it. Loaning out a DVD is always a gamble. If it doesn't come back, how much clout do you have to get it back or any reimbursement? Non- DVDers aren't likely to take a missing booklet seriously, and would probably look at you like some sort of nutcase if you ask them to buy you a replacement set because of it.

[MovieExchange]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned this - start telling all the other co-workers that this guy is not to be trusted if he asks to borrow something. You'd be amazed at how quickly people can find "lost" items when others will not lend him anything.

[Qui Gon Jim]

I loan out any DVD that comes in a cardboard container (box sets, digipaks snappers) in plain old jewelcases. I also remove any booklets or inserts that I care not to lose from amarays.

[mzupeman2]

I don't lend out DVD's anymore. I had some friends who were 100% reliable, some friends who would return it all in good shape but I had to wait months to get it back, and then of course, others who would return my dvd's with:
-a damaged box
-a scratched disc
- (and this is the worst) having a DVD returned to you that's not even secured on the spindle inside... could they have cared less?

So, I stopped loaning out my DVD's, period. Even to those who were reliable. It's not worth having to replace even a single DVD... because that money could be well spent on a DVD you want to add to your collection, instead of having to waste money to replace something your careless 'friend' ruined.

[Bandoman]

Kill him.

[The Infidel]

Send him a bottle of Elsinore with a dead mouse in it, and a message that says "this will be you if I don't get that booklet back", and sign it "Guy Caballero".

[matome]

So, I stopped loaning out my DVD's, period. Even to those who were reliable. It's not worth having to replace even a single DVD... because that money could be well spent on a DVD you want to add to your collection, instead of having to waste money to replace something your careless 'friend' ruined.

:up: Let them join Netflix or Blockbuster.

[talemyn]

Dangit, BTP!! I made you that bat-carrying smiley for a reason . . . NOW USE IT!!!! :mad:

[TylerDurden_73]

Kill him. SLOWLY


fixed:)

[Ahab]

I'm surprised no one has mentioned this - start telling all the other co-workers that this guy is not to be trusted if he asks to borrow something. You'd be amazed at how quickly people can find "lost" items when others will not lend him anything.

Sounds like great advice if you want to make matters worse. -rolleyes-
Unless this guys co-workers are as much into dvd's and collecting them as he is, he will probably just sound to them like a PITA-crybaby.
As others have already wisely suggested, chalk this one up to experience.

[dsa_shea]

PITA? = Pain In The Ass?

[tofferman]

Here is the real question:

Why would you let "a co-worker that I don't see that often" borrow such a set?

I'd bring it up, and try my best to guilt the moron into at least offering you something in return.

I have trouble just letting my 18 year old daughter take a dvd to her room. With the exception of those family members living within my home, I will not loan any dvd to anyone else. Conservative yes, but acquiring a nice dvd collection costs a small fortune. No one will ever appreciate the dvds you acquire as much as you do (except thieves of course). Since my dvd collection may be the single largest asset I possess besides my home (and I imagine others on this board will agree), I guard it the same. Good luck in getting the booklet back.

[Ahab]

PITA? = Pain In The Ass?

Yes.:)

[Jah-Wren Ryel]

A good friend of mine goes out of his way to let people at work borrow his DVDs for free, but he doesn't "advertise" instead just letting people find out about it via word of mouth. He has his dvdprofiler URL on the white board in his office and lets anyone in the building request any DVD from his list of over 3000 titles. He routinely brings in recent acquisitions and puts them on a shelf in his office. He has a check-out system like a school library, with a "sign-out" card in each case and it runs on the honor system that anyone can drop by and check-out and return a DVD even if he isn't in. Over the last two years, he's probably had more than 1000 dvd "rentals." Of that, he has had only one disc lost and only minor scratching -- the worst he had happen was one guy got extremely aromatic pizza grease on an insert and return it without apology - my friend noticed it because his office started smelling like pizza.

He does not lend out anything with cardboard packaging or collectible items, instead he always repackages discs from fancy box sets into plain black multiple-disc keepcases, though he will often use things like booklets as stand-ins for cover-side inserts.

The place is very white-collar, mostly responsible engineers (all hold security clearances) of one sort or another who tend to be conscientious detail freaks anyway which probably accounts for the very few problems he's had. His attitude about the few problems he's had so far is that with so many people borrowing his stuff, there are bound to be a few accidents and that people are generally good, if occasionally careless. and if they can not fix it (like that one lost disc) an apology and promise to take better care next time is good enough.

[Mike Lowrey]

The only set, DVD for that matter, that I ever lent out was my Band of Brothers set to my sister, so that she and her boyfriend could watch them, and that about killed me. Luckily I got the set back with no problems after quite a while because they took forever to watch the damn thing, as they wanted to watch it together and couldn't always get together with work and all.

Since then, they've bought their own set. ;)

Ironic thing is that my soon to be 28 year old sister is the one who requested the set to watch. She was a big SPR fan as well, even has the movie poster in her apartment. Was really disappointed when it didn't win Best Picture. And it was her 39 year old boyfriend who bought the set for her. This boyfriend can be seen in Tractor Supply Company catalogs modeling clothing from time to time.

[Spiky]

Confront him. Take him to his house and find it. This works every time. That is, you either find it, or your point is made very forcefully with no criminal issues.

[Buford T Pusser]

sorry for your loss. Mrs. Pusser would not be happy ;)


:confused:


She's never really seen SCTV. Guess she's not perfect after all. :(

[smackattack]

Id ask him about it, but more than likely you are hosed. IF you collection is important to you, as is the condition of disks and packaging, then you dont lend, period. IF you are a casual dvd person, then its probably no big deal.

Since it seems like your collection is important to you, you learned the hard way unfortunately. When people ask in the future, just conveniently forget to bring them in, eventually they just wont ask anymore.

People treat movies as casual entertainment, hence they treat them casually, especially when it is not theirs.

[Buford T Pusser]

:up: Let them join Netflix or Blockbuster.



I sent him a link for a free month of Netflix the day before he returned it.


As far as sleeping w/his wife and daughter-he has no children. His wife is fairly hot (teaches Pilates for what that's worth) but she's not that friendly so I'm not attracted to her.



There's one guy at work that used to let people borrow DVDs but he stopped doing it when they didn't return them in a timely manner.

Another guy tapes (pre-DVD) everything and I've borrowed his Larry Sanders tapes to watch the whole run of the show.

[Buford T Pusser]

Dangit, BTP!! I made you that bat-carrying smiley for a reason . . . NOW USE IT!!!! :mad:

DOH!

Sorry. I've been lazy lately.


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BTW, I don't think the icon will hurt him too much.

[DVDnut]

shoot the bloody bastard - twice

[Emma311]

When I was in Jr. High I learned the lesson about loaning things out. I once had a friend who was very smart & liked to read a lot, as did I. So I lent her a hard cover book with a paper book jacket on it. I had always kept my books in great condition & this one was no exception. Well I got it back a couple of weeks letter & the paper cover was practically falling off. It turns out that she would carry books around in her bookbag the entire time she had them, ruining the covers. I also had a friend borrow & ruin my clothing around that time. So now I never loan anything important out, unless it's basically worthless. Aside from lending things to my sister, who I trust. For instance I lent a couple of videos out to my nieces last summer (that only cost $1 a piece at the flea market). I didn't get them back for months & I only got them back because I asked. Plus they had let there little brothers watch them which irked me because I told the girls not to. The movies were R rated & the girls are teenagers, but the boys are 10 & 11 & act really immateur. But like I said I really wasn't that worried about getting them back, since I was just going to resell them for a little more at the flea market later.

[critterdvd]

This is why when I let friends borrow DVDs, I put them in CD wallets, and do not lend out the case.

[talemyn]

DOH!

Sorry. I've been lazy lately.


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BTW, I don't think the icon will hurt him too much.Maybe not a normal smiley, but a "talemyn smiley" is special. :D Give him the "angry" one . . . that ought to do it.


As for a real answer . . . just ask him about it. Say something like, "Hey, I noticed that the booklet that comes with the set isn't in the box. Did you still have it?"

Polite . . . harmless . . . non-confrontational . . .

[Mr. Cinema]

Make him watch "The Village".

[Buford T Pusser]

Borrowings in my past:


In high school I let someone borrow some record albums. The kid took me to his basement where he had about fifty albums strewn on the concrete floor NOT in their sleeves. http://img14.paintedover.com/uploads/14/abtp.gif


A co-worker needed to borrow the booklet with a cd box set for research. So I said yes. He decided to copy pages from it and flattened the flimsy spine so the pages were falling out. http://img14.paintedover.com/uploads/14/abtp.gif

Videos and DVDS-never had a problem before this. http://img216.exs.cx/img216/580/bufordpussericon5at.gif


Also: three of the corners of the SCTV box have a tiny bit of color rubbed off. http://img14.paintedover.com/uploads/14/abtp.gif


bonus points for those who notice talemyn's variations.

[WOLFie]

I will never lend out DVD's again. One of most cherished DVD's was never given back to me after a lone. It was Battle Angel Atila and I told the guy I loned it to with some other DVD's to please take care of it. I didnt even want to lend it out but he kept bugging. I didnt hear from the guy for weeks then he brought back everyone but that one saying he loned it out and couldnt get it back. I ended the friendship over it. That was some two years ago and just recently I tried to replace it and was shocked to see the damn thing selling for like $200 on Ebay and Amazon. All I am left with is the damn case. Never again.

[MovieExchange]

Sounds like great advice if you want to make matters worse. -rolleyes-
Unless this guys co-workers are as much into dvd's and collecting them as he is, he will probably just sound to them like a PITA-crybaby.
As others have already wisely suggested, chalk this one up to experience.

Why do they have to be into DVD's? If I heard someone only returned part of what was loaned to him and lost the rest, I wouldn't loan him anything at all. It wouldn't be limited to DVD's.

[nightmaster]

Im reading about efforts people go to to minimize loan out damage, putting discs in special cases and keeping the original artwork at home while the disc is loaned out and the likes. Why?? Just keep your stuff at home and tell people no! You bought it...its your stuff. Youre under no obligation to loan it out, let alone do special things to protect it. If they don't like it, too bad.

[Dragonslayer]

I only "loan" to my brother's family. If they don't return it within a reasonable time I simply go to their house & get the title(s) in question.

[Mike Lowrey]

I used to have a pretty extensive library of recorded movies on VHS recorded in SLP. You know, about 3 movies per tape on a T-120, or 4 on a T-160. I used to loan these out fairly regularly to some of my dad's co-workers at his small office. Government office, so the people there were pretty good with them. Always seemed to get them back...eventually, but no damage detected.

Once I got into heavily collecting store-bought VHS, I had a copy of the 2-tape Patton. Loaned it to one of our friends kids. He begged and begged for it. Got the thing back and the whole tape had a crease down the center of the tape. It was unwatchable. Lots of sound static and jittery picture through-out. Totally ruined. Pissed me off. Ironically, later on, I bought the FOX WS clamshell version of it.

I also had a copy of Blade WS VHS. Loaned it to my cousin. He had it forever. Like someone else mentioned, he totally forgot he had it. Had him look for it and return it. He found it...in his trunk! Well, his trunk was not only an oven during the summer, but it also leaked water. Well, needless to say, the tape was melted and the cardboard slipcase for it was ruined due to water damage. Had them buy me a new one. Surprise...the replacement was a FS version. Well, I had them return it and they somehow found another WS copy.

Ironically, it wasn't long after that when I converted to DVD.

[Buford T Pusser]

That's a lot of irony. :p



The AquaBats have a fun song called CD Repo Man. They should do a new version for DVD.


CD Repo Man

[Chorus]
CD Repo Man
He can go where I can't go
CD Repo Man
He'll infiltrate your stereo
CD Repo Man
He'll sneak up around the back
CD Repo Man
He'll get your CDs back

Some people who seem to
Call themselves my friends
Take my CDs
Then they all pretend
That they lost my music
But I've got a plan
To find the nearest pay phone and
call the Repo Man

[Chorus]

When CD Repo Man
That guy is on a roll
He'll jump through windows
To get back what the suckers stole
He looks tame, but
You know he will attack
He does his job
To get your CDs back

[Chorus]

When your possessions are gone
And something is wrong
There is action to take
Don't call him unless you're really ticked
Because there is no escape
He wears a suit, it looks like he's strapped
Don't mess with him
Or you'll get smacked
Don't steal my CDs
That don't make no sense
Because a Repo Man is always intense!
Hey!

[Chorus]

[Joe Molotov]

The AquaBats have a fun song called CD Repo Man. They should do a new version for DVD.

The Repo Man Limited Edition Tin comes with a CD, if that's any consolation. Just make sure you don't loan it out to your friends.

[Abob Teff]

As far as sleeping w/his wife and daughter-he has no children. His wife is fairly hot (teaches Pilates for what that's worth) but she's not that friendly so I'm not attracted to her.

Damnit man! (Cue "Patton" music) What is wrong with you?! This isn't about attraction! This about DVDs and war! Do you think that Glenn Close liked rabbits?! Do you think that it was over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor?! Now get in there and take one for the team on principle!

[Buford T Pusser]

The Repo Man Limited Edition Tin comes with a CD, if that's any consolation. Just make sure you don't loan it out to your friends.



I bought the tin for Mrs. Pusser so it's no consolation. :(

[Buford T Pusser]

Damnit man! (Cue "Patton" music) What is wrong with you?! This isn't about attraction! This about DVDs and war! Do you think that Glenn Close liked rabbits?! Do you think that it was over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor?! Now get in there and take one for the team on principle!


Well if you insist.

[eau]

:johnwoo: him!

[DVD Polizei]

i used to loan some of my dvds but they always came back scratched so now i just act like i dont have a dvd collection anymore

Yeah, I hear yah. But that little tactic was stopped in its tracks when I accumulated around 700 DVDs, not including box sets. It's hard to tell people what they are seeing is not really there:

Loser Friend: "Hey DVD Pee, can I borrow the Ma--"

DVD P: "No."

Loser Friend: "Why?"

DVD P: "I don't have a DVD collection anymore. I sold it. It's gone."

Loser Friend: "But there's an entire shelf of DVDs. Right over there."

DVD P: "What do you mean. I don't see anything."

[mzupeman2]

And after everything I said on page 1 about not lending out my DVDs, I guess there's something else to take into consideration. I'm getting married in July and my fiance volunteered two of my dvd's to let one of her friends borrow. It's a mutual friend, so it's not like I don't know this person, but man. She's KNOWS better, lol.

[majorjoe23]

Pee in his butt, but not the good, respectful kind of butt-peeing.

[talemyn]

Pee in his butt, but not the good, respectful kind of butt-peeing.Ahhhhhhh!!!! Otter is leaking into the other forums!!! :whofart:

[Buford T Pusser]

I talked with him today on the phone. He said he'd check the house for it but he didn't really remember it. He said he wouldn't throw such a thing away so it should be somewhere in a pile of papers, etc.

If I find out his wife threw it out I guess I have to pee in her butt?



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[SMB-IL]

Im reading about efforts people go to to minimize loan out damage, putting discs in special cases and keeping the original artwork at home while the disc is loaned out and the likes. Why?? Just keep your stuff at home and tell people no! You bought it...its your stuff. Youre under no obligation to loan it out, let alone do special things to protect it. If they don't like it, too bad.THIS is the best advice in this thread!

[island007]

Damn, I just had my first bad ‘loaned DVD’ experience.
I’m the comptroller for a bank and there are only two people I have to please. (CFO & Treasurer)
Anyway, our CFO had company at his house for Thanksgiving, and he was concerned that his father would get bored. I offered (stupid island007) to loan him a few DVDs for his father to watch while he was on the island. The father left in January, so I was expecting to finally get my DVDs back. I waited and waited: no dice.

Last week, I approached my boss about the movies. Well a few minutes before I wrote this post, my boss knocked on my door and tossed two DVDs on my desk. He said, “Two out of six isn’t bad’. He then walked out.

[wewantflair]

One day, after this guy retires and you are in a greater position of power, "accidentally" find a way to cancel 2/3 of his pension, as compensation.

[Buford T Pusser]

Damn, I just had my first bad ‘loaned DVD’ experience.
I’m the comptroller for a bank and there are only two people I have to please. (CFO & Treasurer)
Anyway, our CFO had company at his house for Thanksgiving, and he was concerned that his father would get bored. I offered (stupid island007) to loan him a few DVDs for his father to watch while he was on the island. The father left in January, so I was expecting to finally get my DVDs back. I waited and waited: no dice.

Last week, I approached my boss about the movies. Well a few minutes before I wrote this post, my boss knocked on my door and tossed two DVDs on my desk. He said, “Two out of six isn’t bad’. He then walked out.


What an ungrateful fuckhead!

And you tell him Buford T Pusser said so!








I saw the guy today from across the room and he didn't think I saw him. I noticed he changed his direction of travel so I would say he didn't find it yesterday.

[DVDHO]

I only lend out DVD's to my brother and 2 of my freind's,no box set's,1 at a time and I put the disc in a HellBoy bonus case I dont use or need and it's worked out great.

[Jah-Wren Ryel]

Im reading about efforts people go to to minimize loan out damage, putting discs in special cases and keeping the original artwork at home while the disc is loaned out and the likes. Why?? Just keep your stuff at home and tell people no! You bought it...its your stuff. Youre under no obligation to loan it out, let alone do special things to protect it. If they don't like it, too bad.

Maybe because some people feel that a DVD sitting on the shelf at home collecting dust is a total waste of money? That maybe since DVDs are meant to be played, people ought to be playing them for more than 0.001% of their existence?

[mzupeman2]

Maybe because some people feel that a DVD sitting on the shelf at home collecting dust is a total waste of money? That maybe since DVDs are meant to be played, people ought to be playing them for more than 0.001% of their existence?

That's actually a terrific way of thinking about it. DVD's do deserve to be played since money was spent on them but if you lend them out, it's your fault in the end, because you should have known better, is it not? It's kind of a lose/lose situation there.

[Original Desmond]

Get him alone in the rest room, then rape his arse !

That will make him think twice when borrowing other peoples dvds !

[DrGerbil]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v333/DoctorDoom2/Miscellaneous/FuckNo.jpg

[Jah-Wren Ryel]

That's actually a terrific way of thinking about it. DVD's do deserve to be played since money was spent on them but if you lend them out, it's your fault in the end, because you should have known better, is it not?

That's why being anal-retentive about your discs isn't healthy, they get borrowed they will get worn a little, as long as they still play fine, no big deal. You make a reasonable effort to protect any fragile parts, like leave them at home and just lend out the disc and keepcase and then take life as it comes.

When someone does go beyond the bounds of normal wear and tear and is unapologetic, then refuse to lend to them a second time, but going and locking down your whole collection because of the occasional asshole is at the least overkill and probably a symptom of a minor mental disorder.

[Al_Tahoe]

That's why being anal-retentive about your discs isn't healthy, they get borrowed they will get worn a little, as long as they still play fine, no big deal. You make a reasonable effort to protect any fragile parts, like leave them at home and just lend out the disc and keepcase and then take life as it comes.

When someone does go beyond the bounds of normal wear and tear and is unapologetic, then refuse to lend to them a second time, but going and locking down your whole collection because of the occasional asshole is at the least overkill and probably a symptom of a minor mental disorder.
Actually, I think that berating strangers on the internet for not using their personal property in a manner you agree with is a symptom of a major mental disorder.

[talemyn]

Actually, I think that berating strangers on the internet for not using their personal property in a manner you agree with is a symptom of a major mental disorder.I think "berating" is a little strong. I doubt anybody on this board . . . who refuses to lend out their DVD's . . . would deny that they are anal-retentive about their discs.

[Buford T Pusser]

Mrs. Pusser just told me that a woman we know who is very annoying asked to borrow my Star Wars box set for her four-year-old to watch. I said tell her to go to the library or rent it. I'm not letting anyone borrow box sets anymore.

This woman asked to borrow the Beatles "White Album" last week for the birthday song. I burned her a copy but it seems she's decided I have everything and should start sharing the wealth.

She's already asked Mrs. Pusser if she can have our sons clothes when he's done with them cuz they're so nice (and expensive). Oi.

[snoopygirl]

I think "berating" is a little strong. I doubt anybody on this board . . . who refuses to lend out their DVD's . . . would deny that they are anal-retentive about their discs.

I don't think refusing to loan out personal possessions is anal-retentive, it's just smart in a lot of cases. I don't lend out anything any more. After repeated requests in school to borrow books, cds, clothes, etc. and getting most of them returned in damaged condition, I put my foot down. I am now officially selfish with my belongings, and not ashamed of that at all.

Most people too lazy / cheap / etc. to put their own money into an item aren't going to value yours.

If your car sits unused in your driveway for hours at a time, do you leave the keys in it so your neighbors and friends can use it? House empty while you're at work? Do you invite some homeless people in to stay for awhile? Those things are going to "waste".

[slop101]

... a woman we know who is very annoying...

If she's just someone you know and not a friend or anything, then you should have no problem putting her in her place, and never speaking to her again. From your description, she sounds like a lower form of life anyways.

[talemyn]

I don't think refusing to loan out personal possessions is anal-retentive, it's just smart in a lot of cases. I don't lend out anything any more. After repeated requests in school to borrow books, cds, clothes, etc. and getting most of them returned in damaged condition, I put my foot down. I am now officially selfish with my belongings, and not ashamed of that at all.

Most people too lazy / cheap / etc. to put their own money into an item aren't going to value yours.

If your car sits unused in your driveway for hours at a time, do you leave the keys in it so your neighbors and friends can use it? House empty while you're at work? Do you invite some homeless people in to stay for awhile? Those things are going to "waste".Well I think that there are two things to consider here:

1) Being anal retentive about your DVD's and having a general "policy" of not lending things are two very different situations. If you are someone who lends out CD's, books, tools, etc., but not your DVD's, then that is being anal retentive about your DVD's.

2) There is a difference between lending "stuff" to random people or people who aren't trustworthy with your things and lending to friends, family, people who are reliable, etc. If I was out of town and a friend needed a place to stay . . . sure I would let them use my house. If my brother was in town and he needed to borrow my car to run to the store and I wasn't using it . . . of course I would let him use it.

[TomOpus]

but it seems she's decided I have everything and should start sharing the wealth.Maybe you should share your shoe... up her ass.


:D

[gutwrencher]

Maybe you should share your shoe... up her ass.


:D

so much for the "all around nice guy" label.:lol:

Did somebody bodysnatch T.O.? rotfl

[snoopygirl]

Well I think that there are two things to consider here:
2) There is a difference between lending "stuff" to random people or people who aren't trustworthy with your things and lending to friends, family, people who are reliable, etc. If I was out of town and a friend needed a place to stay . . . sure I would let them use my house. If my brother was in town and he needed to borrow my car to run to the store and I wasn't using it . . . of course I would let him use it.

I have friends who are very sweet people but are scatterbrained and careless and I don't lend them things. I don't want to hear "oh sorry, Junior stepped on it, you know how kids are" or "Fluffy used your cashmere sweater as a scratching post" as if it were just "one of those things". Situations like that are preventable if people just take normal care. Problem is... a lot of people don't. Once you've had a few incidents, it becomes very easy to say "no". And oddly enough, the people who are the most careful and trustworthy don't ask to borrow. They do responsible things like rent or go to the library, or buy their own.

[Buford T Pusser]

If she's just someone you know and not a friend or anything, then you should have no problem putting her in her place, and never speaking to her again. From your description, she sounds like a lower form of life anyways.


She is a person that we know from church and her kid is friends with our kid (age 4). She's always crying poor and seems to think we're rich and need to share everything with her. Her husband seem to be depressed all the time or maybe he's just got a downer personality. Anyway, I've never known someone so brazen about expecting us to share things.

She called today since she hadn't heard from my wife and left a message that was nagging in the guise of uncertainty.

"I checked at home and the babysitter said she didn't see the DVD. But I'm sure you must have brought it-maybe she just didn't know where you put it. Hopefully that's it since I'm counting on this to be a babysitter for my kids tonight while I'm busy." (her husband is home but seems to not be able to watch the kids).

So Mrs. Pusser called her and said I don't want to loan out box sets after having a recent problem. She said, "Oh I understand. My son just ruined a cd-rom we borrowed and I had to buy a new one then I bought the wrong one and they weren't happy." -ohbfrank-

Glad to see my worries were valid. So then she asked my wife what non box-set DVDs I had that she could borrow. She said that we don't have many kids discs. She asked if we'd bought "The Incredibles" yet. We have not.

Mrs. Pusser suggested she try the library which is two blocks from her house. She didn't want to drag the kids there. "I'm not sure what we'll find. Did you notice what they have?" OI!

I kept saying "go to the video store and spend $3" but Mrs. Pusser didn't pass that on to her.



Maybe I'm just overreacting. :confused:

[Buford T Pusser]

Maybe you should share your ****... up her ass.


:D



:eek:-other-:eek:

[snoopygirl]

Maybe I'm just overreacting. :confused:

Nope... you've been much more patient than I would. She sounds pretty brazen and inconsiderate. I'd suspect her of living next door to us, but there are no 4 year olds. I'd swear it's the same woman....

I'd keep asking that co-worker, or offer to come over and help him look. That might motivate him into looking for your booklet.

[dsa_shea]

It's a sad statement about the majority of the population and their respect towards things that belong to others. I see it in school everyday and it continues on into adulthood for many people. When something doesn't belong to them then they could give a rat's ass about it. I dont loan dvds out to anyone exceptmy parents and my firends who are alos dvd collectors and know how to handle the disc. You think people need to be given class on how to handle a disc without scratching it. Hello McFly are you there? Next we'll have to reteach them on how to tie their shoes.

[snoopygirl]

Next we'll have to reteach them on how to tie their shoes.

I know that was meant sarcastically, but the other day I noticed that the selection of sneakers with old-fashioned laces was really small. Everything had stretchy, non-tie laces, or velcro. :whofart:

You may be onto something!

[talemyn]

I have friends who are very sweet people but are scatterbrained and careless and I don't lend them things. I don't want to hear "oh sorry, Junior stepped on it, you know how kids are" or "Fluffy used your cashmere sweater as a scratching post" as if it were just "one of those things". Situations like that are preventable if people just take normal care. Problem is... a lot of people don't. Once you've had a few incidents, it becomes very easy to say "no".I would think that would fall under the "people who aren't trustworthy with your things" group that I mentioned in my post.

And oddly enough, the people who are the most careful and trustworthy don't ask to borrow. They do responsible things like rent or go to the library, or buy their own.But, knowing that they are "careful and trustworthy", would you let them borrow a DVD if they asked?

[slop101]

My horror story of a loaned dvd is especially painful 'caus it's my own damn fault.

There's a woman I know, who is the sweetest girl in the world. Really. Anyways, she's pretty much into the same movies and tv shows that I am (except for the more harder-edge/violent stuff), and I thought she'd love Gilmore Girls. So after watching the first disc together, I let her borrow the first two seasons. This was actually my suggetion, because she's so sweet, that she would never impose and ask to borrow it.

Whe she returned them, two of the discs from seaon 1 were scratched to hell, as was it's packaging, and one of the discs from season 2 has a crack forming from inside it's hub. I'm not surprised by the cracked hub, as the packging on that has a death grip on the discs. On the contrary, the season 1 set's hubs are sort of loose, and I'm betting the discs got loose and scratched up inside the case. I know she would never treat anything this way, so I'm hesitant to confront her about it, and she's so sweet, it would be akin to do the same so, say, Ghandi.

So it's actually more the fault of the packaging, but I should have just given her the discs in their own jewel cases, but I guess I didn't want to come off like the obsessive-compulsive man I really am...

- so does anyone know how to get separate discs of a box-set, without buying the whole box?

[Buford T Pusser]

I would think there isn't really a way to get single discs from the set.

I wonder if I'll be able to get just the booklet. I may end up color xeroxing a friend's copy.

[talemyn]

Check eBay . . . people sell individual discs from a set on a regular basis.

[Buford T Pusser]

was it the one you bought using the "treasure hunt" sale and then turned around and sold on ebay?


:confused:

[dick_grayson]

:confused:


nevermind, I got confused with the name. it's brett lumpkin that was who I was thinking about. sorry. (I'll delete my post too :D)

[snoopygirl]

But, knowing that they are "careful and trustworthy", would you let them borrow a DVD if they asked?

I can think of maybe one or two I'd lend to, and then it depends on the DVD. An easily replaceable one? OK. Something like MSCL or my S2 LFN with the original music that got yanked and re-issued with replacement music? No. Even a careful person could have some unforeseen circumstance happen that could cause loss or damage, and it would be too difficult to replace.

By the same token, I don't ask to borrow other people's DVDs. I feel I can rent, visit the library or buy.

[Quack]

If I let someone borrow a DVD and didn't get something back with it, I would ask him outside and kick him in the nads.

[Buford T Pusser]

What is MSCL and S2 LFN? I'm sure it's obvious.

[hal9000]

I bet if you cut off their arms they wouldn't ask to borrow your DVD's anymore. I mean how awkward would that be, armless friend; "hey, can I borrow that SCTV DVD set of yours, and oh yeah and could you come over and put it in my player for me, and by the way while you're here can you feed me dinner."

The 11th commandment: Thou Shall NOT Borrow Another Mans DVD's!

[Buford T Pusser]

Shall or shall not?

[odisn]

What is MSCL and S2 LFN? I'm sure it's obvious.

I'm thinking that it is probably "My So-Called Life" and "La Femme Nikita".

[Buford T Pusser]

That would make sense. I've never seen either show so that must be why it didn't register.

But I did the see the film of LFN and I do have a life.

[snoopygirl]

I'm thinking that it is probably "My So-Called Life" and "La Femme Nikita".

Yep. Sorry... forgot not everyone is familiar with the same stuff :blush:

[jet]

hal9000, I believe the correct quote is, "Thou shall not covet another man's dvds."

As far as loaning out anything is concerned I have what I consider a good way to decide. First, is the person really trustworthy. When I say trustworthy I mean would the person make the effort, as I always do, to take even better care of whatever I was loaning him/her than something they owned themselves. Second, would this person let me borrow something that they valued just as much if I had asked for it or would they just tell me to go pound sand. Those are pretty much the two determining factors I use.

I will go on the record as saying I am highly anal retentive (and proud of it)about my collection as others here are, but with good reason as many others have stated. Also, if someone has a dvd recorder why not just burn a basic copy of the movie onto a dvdr or a dvdrw, charge the person for the cost of the disc if it is a dvdr and be done with it or just get the rw back after they are done with it. I know that right now people are reading this and groaning about copyright laws, etc, but if you keep getting the disc back and re-recording over it that seems like a way to go. That's always an option so long as people don't try to take advantage.

That being said, there are all of about 5 people that I know that I would loan anything in my collection out to.

jet

[dsa_shea]

hal9000, I believe the correct quote is, "Thou shall not covet another man's dvds."

As far as loaning out anything is concerned I have what I consider a good way to decide. First, is the person really trustworthy. When I say trustworthy I mean would the person make the effort, as I always do, to take even better care of whatever I was loaning him/her than something they owned themselves. Second, would this person let me borrow something that they valued just as much if I had asked for it or would they just tell me to go pound sand. Those are pretty much the two determining factors I use.

I will go on the record as saying I am highly anal retentive (and proud of it)about my collection as others here are, but with good reason as many others have stated. Also, if someone has a dvd recorder why not just burn a basic copy of the movie onto a dvdr or a dvdrw, charge the person for the cost of the disc if it is a dvdr and be done with it or just get the rw back after they are done with it. I know that right now people are reading this and groaning about copyright laws, etc, but if you keep getting the disc back and re-recording over it that seems like a way to go. That's always an option so long as people don't try to take advantage.

That being said, there are all of about 5 people that I know that I would loan anything in my collection out to.

jet

Doesn't it take several hours for a computer to get the data off of a dvd and then set the disc up for a burn? I've heard from people that this takes quite sometime.

[dvd182]

Doesn't it take several hours for a computer to get the data off of a dvd and then set the disc up for a burn? I've heard from people that this takes quite sometime.
Not really, the whole process could probably be done around an hour for someone with a reasonably/moderately fast computer and burner.

[jet]

Actually, I own probably the only working stand-alone Apex DRX-9000 dvd recorder, so it really isn't much of a problem

jet